{"id":924,"date":"2018-08-06T10:27:38","date_gmt":"2018-08-06T14:27:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/?p=924"},"modified":"2018-08-06T10:27:38","modified_gmt":"2018-08-06T14:27:38","slug":"what-do-you-do-how-to-answer-this-question-like-an-artist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/what-do-you-do-how-to-answer-this-question-like-an-artist\/924","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;What do you do?&#8221; How to answer this question like an artist"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ember5872\" class=\"reader-author-info__sticky reader-author-info__sticky_content sticky ember-view\">\n<div class=\"reader-author-info__container-wrapper\">\n<div class=\"reader-author-info__container display-flex align-items-center\">\n<div class=\"reader-social-bar__container display-flex flex-grow-1 justify-flex-end\">\n<div id=\"ember5909\" class=\"ember-view\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"ember5934\" class=\"ember-view\">\n<div class=\"reader-article-content\">\n<blockquote><p>So. What do you do?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>For years, I&#8217;ve read articles that tell me to\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bbc.com\/capital\/story\/20160809-why-you-shouldnt-ask-people-what-they-do\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">never ask people what they do<\/a>\u00a0as an icebreaker. And yet, people I don&#8217;t know\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/2013\/10\/30\/the-one-question-to-stop-_n_4171266.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">keep asking me what I do.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>How about you?\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.theminimalists.com\/do\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Do people ask you what you do a lot?<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I suspect that no matter how many articles pile up on this topic &#8212; people won&#8217;t change. They&#8217;ll keep at it. They&#8217;ll keep asking what I do.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s cool. But a few years ago, I decided to change my answer.<\/p>\n<p>In the past, I might have said I was a writer. Or a teacher. Or a business communication consultant. Or a speech coach.<\/p>\n<p>Freelancers tend to cobble together an umbrella career of a wide range of skills. We perform many tasks in the realm of crafting and delivering messages.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been toying with the idea of saying &#8220;I&#8217;m a slasher. I write SLASH teach SLASH coach SLASH speak&#8230;you get the picture.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s very Hollywood. No one&#8217;s an actor. They&#8217;re an actor SLASH writer SLASH producer.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Think Orson Welles. Or Oprah. Or Donald Glover. They not only slay, they&#8217;re slashers.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>But saying &#8220;I&#8217;m a slasher&#8221; can be confusing for people who ask what I do. If I tell them I&#8217;m a writer, most think in terms of &#8220;book&#8221; &#8212; not &#8220;speeches&#8221; or &#8220;scripts&#8221; or &#8220;copy&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>If I say, &#8220;teacher&#8221; &#8211; they ask what grade. If I say &#8220;speaker&#8221; &#8211; they ask if I live in a van, down by the river.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Matt Foley: Van Down By The River - SNL\" width=\"580\" height=\"326\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Xv2VIEY9-A8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>To help clear things up, I tried following some more advice. This time, another slew of articles and books told me that I needed to craft an elevator pitch.<\/p>\n<p>I was instructed to say something like this,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;I work with growing businesses to help them create and deliver compelling messaging.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>But to me, that sounded arch and stilted. It also seemed like I was using a lot of words to say &#8220;I write, teach, coach, and speak.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The elevator pitch approach? It didn&#8217;t work out too well for me. I felt like a dope when I said it. So I&#8217;ve hit upon a new tactic when people ask me what I do.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I literally tell them.<\/strong>\u00a0I share the most recent, top-of-mind thing I actually did. For example, here&#8217;s a list of a few things I might say:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;Oh! I&#8217;m reading this fascinating book about&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Last week, I published an article on&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I spoke at a conference about&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I took a class on&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I&#8217;ve been listening to more audio books. I just finished&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;So far this year, I spent over 100 hours trying to get medical coverage.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I&#8217;ve been driving my car less and walking more.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I went on vacation to&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I sous vide a turkey in a beer cooler.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I&#8217;m watching&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I participated in a&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>See what I&#8217;ve done? I&#8217;ve taken the question literally. When people ask what I do, I tell them what I&#8217;m actually doing&#8230;then I follow it up with a little bit of specificity.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ll confess. This approach has gotten mixed results. Many times, people will be interested in a book I&#8217;ve read, a class I&#8217;ve taken, or a conference I attended.<\/p>\n<p>Then, they chime in with their own reading list. Or class. Or conference. Or whatever.<\/p>\n<p>I like it when that happens. It&#8217;s an entertaining discussion. And we end up bonding over interests and ideas.<\/p>\n<p>But other times, all this &#8216;literal&#8217; approach does is cause more confusion. I might tell someone I wrote an article about a topic and they&#8217;d repeat,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Sure. But what do you do? You know? For a living?&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So then I&#8217;d fall back to saying, &#8220;I write, teach, and coach.&#8221; Then, they&#8217;d seem annoyed or confused that I didn&#8217;t lead with that before telling them about an article I wrote.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, well. No matter. Can&#8217;t win &#8217;em all.<\/p>\n<p>On the plus side, I&#8217;m not hurting for clients or work. At the moment, I have plenty to do.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I sometimes joke that I sign so many non-disclosure agreements, it&#8217;s a wonder I can talk about anything. Ever. At all.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>On the negative side, I have no idea if my &#8216;answering the question literally&#8217; is the right approach to take. But, hey. At least I&#8217;m enjoying myself.<\/p>\n<p>People aren&#8217;t going to stop asking me what I do any time soon. By being literal, I&#8217;m hoping to create a more human connection over interesting topics like books, ideas, current events, and mutual interests.<\/p>\n<p>What about you? What do you say when people ask &#8220;So. What do you do?&#8221;<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Laura Bergells is a writer, teacher, and a LinkedIn Learning course author. Check out\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/learning\/establishing-credibility-as-a-speaker\">Establishing Credibility as a Speaker<\/a>.\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/learning\/crisis-communication\/?trk=insiders_14653331_learning%C2%A0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Crisis Communication<\/em><\/a><em>\u00a0and\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/learning\/public-speaking-fundamentals\/?trk=insiders_14653331_learning%C2%A0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Public Speaking<\/em><\/a><em>. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Laura has decades of experience as a business communication coach. She has a Master\u2019s Degree in Public Administration and leads workshops on effective communication. You can find Laura on\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/maniactive\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"><em>Twitter\u00a0<\/em><\/a><em>and at\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/maniactive\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>YouTube<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So. What do you do? For years, I&#8217;ve read articles that tell me to\u00a0never ask people what they do\u00a0as an icebreaker. And yet, people I don&#8217;t know\u00a0keep asking me what I do. How about you?\u00a0Do people ask you what you do a lot? 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