{"id":471,"date":"2013-06-13T13:31:44","date_gmt":"2013-06-13T17:31:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/?p=471"},"modified":"2013-06-13T13:31:44","modified_gmt":"2013-06-13T17:31:44","slug":"how-is-emotional-manipulation-a-bad-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/how-is-emotional-manipulation-a-bad-thing\/471","title":{"rendered":"How is emotional manipulation a bad thing?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>For a public speaking exercise, I ask students to tell a 2-3 minute story in front of the class. I also hand out a stack of simple evaluation sheets to the class &#8212; students anonymously rate the speaker&#8217;s storytelling skills, vocal skills, body language, and story value from 1-5. I also leave a brief space for written comments.<\/p>\n<p>In one class session, a particular student was a clear standout. Her showmanship was exceptional and she delivered a remarkable performance. She received straight 5&#8217;s across the board and a number of enthusiastic and positive comments in her evaluations.<\/p>\n<p>A week later, I asked the class who they thought gave the best presentation. They actually answered in unison &#8212; there was no question who delivered the over-the-top knockout performance.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Great.&#8221; I said. &#8220;Now, what was her story was about?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The class fell silent. Seven days later, and no one in class remembered the actual content of the story!<\/p>\n<p>How many times has this happened to you? You see or hear a terrific act (or read a phenomenal book or see a fantastic theatrical performance) &#8212; but when someone asks you, &#8220;Well? What was it about?&#8221; &#8212; you mutter something like, &#8220;Well, it&#8217;s hard to explain. You really had to be there.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The showmanship upstaged the story.<\/p>\n<p>The razzle-dazzle of the presentation took over the message.<\/p>\n<p>It happens quite a bit. A talented performer, presenter, or artist can actually <a href=\"http:\/\/priceonomics.com\/is-this-why-ted-talks-seem-so-convincing\/\">trick the audience into believing that they understand more than they actually know!<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Good showmanship is a form of flattery. When you make your audience feel smarter or better than they actually are, they&#8217;re going to like you more. You&#8217;re not just selling your audience on an idea, you&#8217;re simultaneously selling them the idea that they&#8217;re smarter, better, cooler people for paying attention to you.<\/p>\n<p>Is showmanship emotionally manipulative? Yes. Without question.<\/p>\n<p>But how is it a bad thing?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For a public speaking exercise, I ask students to tell a 2-3 minute story in front of the class. I also hand out a stack of simple evaluation sheets to the class &#8212; students anonymously rate the speaker&#8217;s storytelling skills, vocal skills, body language, and story value from 1-5. I also leave a brief space [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":464,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"image","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-471","post","type-post","status-publish","format-image","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coaching","post_format-post-format-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/471","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=471"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/471\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":478,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/471\/revisions\/478"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/464"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=471"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=471"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maniactive.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=471"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}